Life is full of ups and downs, surprises and hardships, good times and bad. We’ve all been raised by fictional movie stars and fairy tale success stories that made us believe that success and dreams comes along with our birth package. Unfortunately, the more time you spend pretending that ultimate truths don’t exist, the more time you waste not being your authentic self and getting the most out of every precious second.
Nobody cares how difficult your life is, and you are the author of your life’s story
It is said in The Alchemist that when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. But that doesn’t mean every door you knock will be opened to you, not everyone is going to support you. So stop looking for people to give you sympathy and start creating the life story you want to read. Remember, there is no success without failing.
Things won’t always turn out the way you expect them
We fear rejections, we feel tremendous disappointment and start doubting everything, including ourselves. There is a proverb “this shall too pass”, which means that all material conditions, whether good or bad, are transient. This proverb has the ability to make the happy person sad and the sad person happy because of the realisation that both the ‘best and worst of times’ will soon pass. They’re opportunities to learn about ourselves, our needs, and our wants, and to create meaningful change in our lives.
What other people think about you really doesn’t matter
It is really hard not to worry what other people think about you. Wanting to be liked, and approved of, and smiled at, and applauded is a fairly basic need among us.What you need to stop caring about is what the world-at-large thinks of you. Shitty co-workers, party acquaintances, friends of friends, the guy in the grocery store, online comments—it does not matter what these people think. Yes, they’re perfectly entitled to their opinions, and you are perfectly entitled to not give a tiny rat’s ass about those opinions.Most importantly, it’s your life, and if something doesn’t serve you, you’re entitled to let it go. And that includes what other people think of you.
Your actions speak louder than your words, so you need to hold yourself accountable
People say things and make promises they have no intention of keeping on a daily basis. You can tell someone you love him or her as many times as you want, but until your behaviour coincides with that, the other person will probably not believe you. Some feelings cannot be expressed in mere words; they require actions to speak for them. Words are cheap, anyone can tell someone they love them, but they will not feel the immensity of these emotions until they are acted upon.This concept applies to almost every situation in a person’s life.
There is no perfect time to start anything
It’s easy to come up with excuses and justify not getting started. The longer you fill your head with rationalisations and empty excuses, the less time you have to take action.
It’s easy to say, “I will start when I have more experience, money, time and resources”. By this time next year, you will have a lot more excuses. It’s a cycle. And once you get caught in the loop, it, can be difficult to break free and do something meaningful you care about.
The most common regret of the dying is, “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself rather than the life others expected of me.” The definition of courage is, “The ability to do something that frightens one.”
You need to improve your relationships to have lasting happiness
Love, friendship, success, good health, peace-of-mind, or simply living a life without stress is what we need. We don’t call these things “happiness” however happiness is always the result. As such, no matter what it is you’re striving for, no matter what goals you are working towards, and no matter what you call it, happiness is always the underlying objective. The money you made and empire you built isn’t what you need in your death bed, you’ll be thinking about the relationships you’ve made–so start acting accordingly.
You are your biggest asset
We don’t realise that investing in other people is taking away from the time that we can spend bettering ourselves. Instead of trying to please people who won’t even be there to catch you when you fall, start spending time getting to know yourself. Build up your strengths and work on your flaws. Being the best version of yourself is the only way to be truly successful in this world.